It’s tempting to test the people in our lives, to see how well they meet our expectations and demands. But it’s a good idea to recognize that (and when) we’re doing it, …
Let’s be clear about a couple things. Contrary to the clinically glib, reckless thesis that Kevin Dutton, Ph.D and his creative collaborator, Andy McNab, have been promoting in their spate of strange, …
Psychopaths, also known as sociopaths, are usually epic, pathological liars. They are often imperturbable liars. Most of us, when busted for an outright lie, will feel awkward, embarrassed, ashamed, maybe humbled, …
Who was Stephen Paddock, the Las Vegas mass murderer? Here’s my tentative hypothesis, offered humbly with no pretensions to being right. Mr. Paddock was a psychopath with an incubating slathering to …
It’s important to curb our desperation, because in desperation we tend to settle. In desperation, we’re at high risk to make highly compromised, impulsive decisions. Whether desperate for love, companionship, to cling …
The best way to get a grip on your insecurities is to loosen it—yes, loosen your grip. Stop fighting your insecurities. Make peace with them. Make friends with them. Understand that …
It’s certainly possible to make distinctions between jerks, narcissists and psychopaths (aka sociopaths). But how necessary is it? It’s certainly plausible to posit a continuum somewhere along which we locate jerk …
About twenty-five years ago, I said something like this to a psychologist friend of mine at lunch: “You know, we’re psychotherapists, but I’m telling you…what everyone really needs…what everyone secretly wants…is a …
What psychopaths see when they see you depends greatly on what “mode” they’re in. When in a “gratification pursuit” mode, psychopaths will see you somewhat differently than when not—that is, they’ll see …
What do Donald Trump and serial killers share? Maybe just this—like serial killers, Trump has highly psychopathic tendencies. I recognize how provocative this sounds, but hear me out. Trump is no serial …