It’s time to break a really bad habit—your self-loathing. You’ve probably been doing it for years, decades, maybe your whole life. So, it’s understandable how inextricable it’s become with your sense of …

Before outlining some basic strategies for repairing your relationship all by yourself, let me state a few caveats—first, there’s no fixing a relationship with an abusive partner, especially with an abusive partner …

Complacency’s sort of like quicksand, in the sense that once you get stuck in it, good luck getting out. How would I know what it’s like to be stuck in quicksand? That’s …

It’s just awfully lonely being a human being. It’s just awfully hard being a human being. For so many reasons. We are really, in a sense, totally alone within ourselves. We can’t …

Many myths surround the term “confidence.” Everyone wants to feel what we call confident. Everyone sees others as more confident than themselves. Most of us associate confidence with feeling secure, self-assured, unafraid …

Let’s consider how to get a grip on our narcissism. When we cut to the chase, problematic narcissism very much boils down to patterns of chronically mismanaged disappointment. From this perspective, practice …

Feel your guilt, and let it go. That’s what guilt’s good for—you feel it, learn what’s to learn from it, and then retire it. You stop clinging to it—beating yourself up, bludgeoning …

To be free in life, we must be good disappointers. This doesn’t mean we must be “comfortable disappointers,” but we must be competent ones. Specifically, we must be willing to cultivate the …

It’s tempting to test the people in our lives, to see how well they meet our expectations and demands. But it’s a good idea to recognize that (and when) we’re doing it, …

Let’s be clear about a couple things. Contrary to the clinically glib, reckless thesis that Kevin Dutton, Ph.D and his creative collaborator, Andy McNab, have been promoting in their spate of strange, …