It’s scary to be a human being, for countless reasons. It just is. So, the first thing I want to say is, whenever you feel scared, remind yourself that life is scary, …
We don’t fight our breathing, so why fight our anxiety. You might think I’m suggesting that anxiety is as natural, inevitable and inescapable as breathing. Do you really think I’m suggesting that? …
Nothing impedes success like avoidance. And avoidance from “fear of failure” is a notably crucial source of avoidance that directly threatens success. We want to teach our kids, all kids, why it’s …
It’s time to break a really bad habit—your self-loathing. You’ve probably been doing it for years, decades, maybe your whole life. So, it’s understandable how inextricable it’s become with your sense of …
Before outlining some basic strategies for repairing your relationship all by yourself, let me state a few caveats—first, there’s no fixing a relationship with an abusive partner, especially with an abusive partner …
Complacency’s sort of like quicksand, in the sense that once you get stuck in it, good luck getting out. How would I know what it’s like to be stuck in quicksand? That’s …
It’s just awfully lonely being a human being. It’s just awfully hard being a human being. For so many reasons. We are really, in a sense, totally alone within ourselves. We can’t …
Many myths surround the term “confidence.” Everyone wants to feel what we call confident. Everyone sees others as more confident than themselves. Most of us associate confidence with feeling secure, self-assured, unafraid …
Let’s consider how to get a grip on our narcissism. When we cut to the chase, problematic narcissism very much boils down to patterns of chronically mismanaged disappointment. From this perspective, practice …
Feel your guilt, and let it go. That’s what guilt’s good for—you feel it, learn what’s to learn from it, and then retire it. You stop clinging to it—beating yourself up, bludgeoning …